Monday, February 15, 2010

Out there on your own

Hey you, out there beyond the wall,
Breaking bottles in the hall,
Can you help me?
Hey you, don't tell me there's no hope at all
Together we stand, divided we fall.

-- Hey you, The Wall, Pink Floyd, 30-11-1979

Some memories last forever, and the pain lingers on like an inevitable habit embedded in the deepest recesses of the mind.

Mistakes can never be forgiven and are like cracks on pot china, it's pieces smartly stuck together with a binding adhesive but the cracks still very visible and existing! Sometimes I wish, I could travel back in time, as envisioned by H. G. Wells in his famed Time Machine, but that hasn't come to be, yet!

I'm amazed at how emphatically people state that they have no regrets in life. Can life, ever, be so perfect like a clean slate? I wish mine was too, but that remains only a wish at best.

In the end, when they say that nothing else matters, I'm comforted by the adage that "some of the worst things in life are intended to make one better and not bitter."

44 comments:

  1. Life is beauty ~~ admire it
    Life is bliss ~~ taste it
    Life is a dream ~~ realize it
    Life is a challenge ~~ meet it
    Life is a game ~~ play it
    Life is sorrow ~~ overcome it
    Life is a struggle ~~ accept it
    Life is an adventure ~~ dare it
    Life is luck ~~ make it
    Life is life ~~ fight for it....
    Go for it Rakesh !!!

    (@^.^@)

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  2. To me, having no regrets = living in present, learning from the past and moving on.

    Listen to this song (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ). It might cheer you up..

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  3. This post reminds of my father's words -- In life have a stance for yourself, and stand by it in all adversities and tests -- I have tried to take those words...and yes, NO regrets....because I also BELIEVE its all predestined, and have little choice with my own nature and I feel fish out of water, when I try to be otherwise :)

    wishes,
    devika

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  4. Oh why do i do this "I" speech here --

    "Mistakes can never be forgiven" -- Will holding on help anyone?? I think that could be the source of a regret later...

    Life is too short to be so silly about it, Rak :)

    Good confusions -- but don't think too much over confusions, if they don't give you answer in a minute..they would never :)

    wishes,
    devika

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  5. all a matter of coping with circumstances!

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  6. Thanks for getting me back on solid ground, human mind needs to be thoroughly disciplined. With a few jolly days it forgets the humbleness it ought to have.

    I wish I COULD really change a few things in my past- not at all for my monetary or any other gain but only because that would have been the right thing to do.

    I repent a lot whenever I remember those few moments- I would never be ashamed to say that I sinned, on judgment day, I will take the punishment because I deserve it.

    I try to live a justified life now but its so damn hard, the past haunts me always.

    I keep saying "I'm Sorry" but no matter how much I say it means nothing.

    P.S. Nice Post Rakesh- I write a lot, but am afraid to post it, because I'm too blunt.

    - - - Ș ΐ ζ Λ j

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  7. that last line reminds me of benny in college. getting caught smokin beedis in his room.. abt 15 of us... man did we fall in front of warden castelino. it doesnt matter what mistakes u made in the past some were stupid makes u laugh your guts out..
    laugh at those memories. laugh hard.
    the point is that live for today, abhi this very moment. prepare yourself for the comming tomorow.
    if you keep pondering over the mistakes or regrets in life you will forget to live your today and then you will have no future cause you will be busy trying to catch up to your present.
    and thats my 2 cents.

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  8. Even I cannot understand how people announce that they have on regrets. I have a lot of regrets in life. And in spite of saying that some of the incidents are pivotal in making me what I an today, I would not hesitate to in back an change them. If only that were possible.

    But still I do not lead a overtly justifed life, or curb myself in order to restrict that growing list of regrets. I have always followed my instincts, and while they have failed me at times, they havent lost my trust..

    I saw the post yesterday, was about to comment. But the thing that held of back was this quote. I saw it for the first time in the x files though it is originally a greek poem line said by kennedy,

    'He who learns must suffer, and even in our sleep , pain that we cannot forget, falls drop by drop on the regretful heart. But then, in our own despair against our own will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God.'

    So had to locate the episode on the dvds again! This line struck me relevant here! Take care Rakesh.

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  9. On = no
    An = am
    In = go
    An = and

    ***To whom it may concern.***

    If the repeated silly mistakes by the poster on this, and a few preceding comments, lead you to believe that he is a retarD them yot are horribly wrong.he is just a guy having problems with his cellphone dictionary.

    *** end of announcement***

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  10. Mistakes in the announcement too! Well if a whole govt dept can use a paki pic in advert, i am just a kid.. Lol.. I need that bb...

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  11. One can have regrets only if they realize their mistake. Some people never realize their mistakes, they are always correct.

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  12. Its becoming an interesting debate over here...the "spirit" above gave a good laugh...and thanks for that..

    But it makes me think:

    Who decides YOUR right and wrong?? it is YOU or the world.....Its all so subjective and I can make a wrong, right or vice versa even under the rules of the land....

    Its all our sense of prudence and justice ---

    Thats why the only question I found relevant was "what do you stand for in life" -- and how well do you outlive the tests -- ofcourse it will be subjected to test repeatedly...thats about life too :)

    anyway, interesting to interact Rak :)

    wishes,
    devika

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  13. Well like all of us I too have some weak moments in the past, yet I dare say that all of my past , each and every incident has made me the man I am today. Each regret teamed with failure has taught me to fight, and now when I have to chose between X and Y , it is those moments where I was weak that help me make the right decision ...


    keep Writing :)

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  14. Anya

    What wonderful thoughts, so simply put yet so relevant!

    This sure made my day!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  15. Sankalp

    Good thought! I'll take it!

    And wonderful number! Thanks for sharing pal!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  16. Devika Chechi

    Sure does comfort me when I think its preordained! As you say, this is perhaps how it should be..... for if I look back, there is a reason for every happenstance! No doubt!

    And, right, holding on to mistakes never helps, but only creates a pile of regret which is difficult to get out of! So, it sure is better best to forget and move on!

    Life is indeed too short to stop and worry!

    Thanks, as always for your wonderful words of wisdom!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  17. Devika Chechi

    Besides, it is us who decide our right and wrong and thats what makes it all the more difficult and tough!

    But then that is also what brings the realization home!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  18. Magiceye

    True Sir, all a matter of coping with circumstances, surely!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  19. Siraj

    Very good to hear from you! I missed you big deal budd!

    Hope alls well @ ur end!

    I echo your thoughts word to word with the belief that such is life in its entirety, ups, downs and nothings!

    But on one part I differ and that is the writing part, which U don't do! Please write as much as you can! Would love to see updates from your end!

    And yes, I will always respect you for the upfront attitude of yours - to me that is what you are about - frank and open - essentially the truth!

    Cheers mate!

    Rakesh

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  20. Manu

    You took be back into a different world, a world that is so cherished but out of reach!

    Those good old days! :)

    And yes, as you said, it is very essential to live the moment forgetting the past or the future for they do not matter!

    Thanks so much for your words of wisdom! Am truly happy to be associated with you!

    Good friends we have (Bob Marley)

    Thanks a bunch budd!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  21. Now there...as i read somewhere...Be yourself, everything else will fall in place :)

    but problem for me has been...I am not myself, when i don't consider the world around me -- its all strange paradoxes that goes into the making of who/what we are :)

    If I may say...I am born to an athiest father and a highly, highly religious mother -- I will have all the paradoxical characteristics of that combination :)

    wishes,
    devika

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  22. Samby

    Thats an awesome quote. Thanks for etching it here, it makes a whole lot of sense in my context in particular - makes me feel closer to the purpose, which I know not yet!

    And yes, those hay days and carefree times have seen a more rash side of me with the multitudes of worlds that I have crisscrossed with the many masks I've diligently worn......but then the rush and the madness......, is of a different time! :)

    Instances have surely made me a better person with the motive that one should learn from others's mistakes, for one may not live long enough to make them all ;)

    and lol on your cellphone commenting - actually hats off to your patience! Trust me, I'd be dead before I could text so much!

    Forget the mistakes.....if, as you said, the Govt. can blunder with the Pak AF Chief on its pages, then we sure are kids or perhaps lesser ;)

    And yes, you sure need the BB ASAP, for then you'd be able to twiddle your thumbs better ;)

    ROOOOOOOFFFFFLLLLLLLL, LOOOOOOOOL, LMAAAAAAAOOOOOO - Imagine what others will read that statement as, when only you and I know what the BB and twiddling thumbs is meant to be ;)

    We'll laugh over some beer, hopefully soon!

    God bless U budd!

    Cheers n hugs

    rakesh

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  23. Rajesh

    Thats a very comforting thought! Thanks so much for being this generous!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  24. Devika Chechi

    I read somewhere, that one needs to have a stand irrespective of whether one is right or wrong!

    Needless to say, this displays a certain strength in character, above all else!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  25. Arnav

    This reminds me of the adage "Experience is a wonderful teacher, the only problem being that the test comes first and the lesson later."

    Today, I can safely say that many of the good things that are in me are as a result of the mistakes that I made and learnt as a result thereof!

    Thanks for your comments

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  26. Yes, I have heard that too...and guess its right....because right and wrong are all subjective....and you can see right becoming wrong and wrong becoming right...in many cases, over the passage of time!

    strength of character -- Read Gurucharan Das' "The Difficulty of Being Good" :)

    wishes,
    devika

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  27. Thanks for that suggestion! Is this the same Gurucharan Das who is a columnist in the TOI?

    Thanks once again, Chechi!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  28. Yes, he is...this book is a study on Dharma...he answers the question "why be good" -- tackling the issues of Dharma as covered in Mahabharatha :)

    I think the younger generation should read -- But they say "why be good at all" --- reading is much far off :))

    wishes,
    devika
    devika

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  29. Oh - this seems very very interesting! I will buy a copy!

    I'm gonna trip on this for sometime :))

    Thanks so much, once again!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  30. Rakesh,

    Here's what I think .. people who say that they have no regrets haven't lived a perfect life without mistakes .. they feel that they are a product of their mistakes as much as the correct things they did in life. Ah..Philsaphee :)

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  31. There is nobody without any regrets in life......if somebody feels otherwise it's only like the cat drinking milk with its eyes closed believing that nobody is seeing it drinking. Short... but a very nice post.

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  32. Great philsaphees here Rak :)

    You have some of the best brain storming sessions here :))

    wishes,
    devika

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  33. Jim

    Your words of wisdom are truly spartan! Good to see your comments!

    Thanks very much!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  34. Saji

    You couldn't have said it better my friend!

    Thanks for your comments!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  35. Devika Chechi

    Indeed, wonderful words of wisdom here! I'm on a roll ;)

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  36. Well Rak..it seems you are giving your blog a good amount of time...there is a lot of life in it....and regarding your love for pink floyd and his songs well dont think we need to discuss that..do we?

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  37. Shahid

    Oh yeah! I get quite a bit of time to do my blogging, minus the photography and the geo-political part!

    And yes, Pink Floyd has been the most amazing marvel that has happened in my life - musically!

    Truly the elixir of my life!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  38. seems you are a lot inspired by these bands... but aren't their songs always sad... almost suicidal... cheer up man... life is not built on regrets... neither it always play a sad song :)

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  39. Pink Floyd - God. Hey You - Classic. Psychedelic Rock - Soothing. Nice write up :)I am feeling better after reading this copy. I can feel be the trance.

    Is there anybody in there?
    Just nod if you can hear me :)

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  40. Rajlaksmhi

    Oh yeah - I love Floyd, for the introspective mood it helps attain!

    Truly, I find their tracks very very probing - but yes, they can be very depressing too, if not taken in the right frame!

    Thanks for your comments!

    Cheers

    Rakesh

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  41. Pallav

    Just one line to you - Shine on you crazy diamond ;)

    Says it all, eh?

    Btw, thats my most fav Floyd product!

    Cheers mate

    Rakesh

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  42. nnddu patteee maashey ??? Njaan onnu ividunnu vittu ninnappol, what happened ?? :D :D :D

    Hope everything is alrite now. Take care.

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  43. Vimmuuuuuuuuuuuuu

    Welcome back pal! I missed u big time!

    Damn good to see you!

    And many congrats once again!

    All kool now! ;)

    Say Hi to Laxmi from my side!

    Cheeeeeeeeeeers

    Rax

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